“I Didn’t Have Chains Until I Met My Wife!” (Ephesians 5:25-28)

A few weeks ago, I was having an animated discussion with several of our friends who enjoy skiing. We were debating the merits of a car with an all-wheel or four-wheel drive and its traction in deep snow. I pointed out that I used to  have such a car in both Denver and St. Louis, and it was of little avail. I certainly should have used chains when I lived in those snowy environments. However, I was unfamiliar with the use of chains and naively thought it was only for the mountains and steep inclines, thus I never availed of chains until I began skiing with my wife. I proudly exclaimed to my friends, as I pointed to my wife,


“I didn’t have chains until I met my wife!”


Oops! Did I really say that???


Everyone laughed...I think. :)


Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:25-28 (ESV)


God saved me in 1982. But it was not until 1996, when God brought my wife into my life, that I truly began to understand the depth of what love means, both for myself and for others. I am still very selfish and prideful. God, through His grace and mercy, has provided a wife who is helping me to mature and love unselfishly, a process that I am still learning. She is my help mate and my heart is chained to hers. And together, we are chained to Jesus Christ.


I didn’t have chains until I met my wife. Thanks be to God for my chains!


Love and trust the Lord; seek His will in your life.